This is why feminists are angry all the time.

I was going to talk about classes, but a friend showed me this site and I have to talk about it. People like the ones posting on this site (except for the ones who are trolling, lawl) are the reason the world sucks. In my opinion, if there is a higher power who really makes everything happen for a reason, this is the cause of global warming.


The section on this site I ended up looking at is all about U.S.E., Unplanned Sexual Encounter, which these people (Baptists? I don't think they're representing that entire group. Just a really crazy part of it.) want to rename rape, so as to "remove the stigma associated with this sometimes unpleasant situation."


What? WHAT?!?
THEY HAVE A PROCEDURE FOR THIS?

No. NO. First off, you don't know for sure if you're pregnant.

The likelihood of becoming pregnant from a single act of unprotected sex (for example, from a one night stand) varies from person to person, and also depends on the stage of a woman's menstrual cycle. The probability is highest around the time of ovulation (when the egg is released), when, on average, up to one third of women will become pregnant from having sex once.

So, if you got that 30% chance, there's also the gender of the kid. Using a name that could go either way is dumb. That's just a stupid plan. And... a blessing?! You know, I believe that things happen, usually for a good reason, and that in the end everything works out, but I would never, ever, call this a blessing. (This site is VERY anti-abortion, if you haven't noticed yet.) My first thought after being assaulted is NOT going to be "Oh, I'm badly beaten up and will likely have severe emotional scarring resulting in an inability to trust men for a long time if ever again, but I've been blessed with A BABY HALLELUJAH." That makes everything better. Some things just suck, and the only part of it I would consider a blessing is if I'm able to become a stronger person because of it.


The repenting part? More no. Here's a definition of rape; any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person. Note the forced part? There is no way in heaven or hell I'm repenting for something I didn't want to do. Arguments about having non-spousal relations/premarital sex not being repent-worthy aside. I'm not apologizing for being a victim, and this is what the site's about; blaming the woman, and de-victimizing her.

If a woman has seduced the man in some way, however, then she is to blame.

That's an actual response to a troll (go him) asking: Ooh, so can I go out and USE someone who I find attractive? There's more.

Frank Lee, I done know how some of these harlots can claim with a strate face that ANY sexual activitiy was UNPLANNED when you look under their too-short skirts and find that they have shaved and carefully groomed there lady areas!

If you ask me and Jesus, those tramps are UP FOR ANYTHING! EVEN BLACK MEN!

Sigh. Baptists can't spell. Anyways. According to this (and subsequent posts, people actually agree with this guy), if I in any way look attractive to any man then he has the right to have intercourse with me despite what I want, because I was asking for it. Sorry I try to look nice occasionally... Two more things. grooming my "lady area" isn't a crime, and doesn't mean I'm planning on having sex whenever the opportunity presents itself. It just means there's a way I want it to be down there and I do that as a way of being female (or because it makes my hygiene easier to maintain). It's just like shaving legs, folks, except less people do it. It doesn't make me a tramp who's "up for anything." I don't think Jesus agrees with you. I'm going to even touch the racist comment... I think most rational people will agree that's terrible.

I propose that Senator Brownback introduce a bill to Congress stating that all menstrual blood be considered evidence of preemptive murder f a fetus. Only lactating women would be immune from prosecution.I propose that Senator Brownback introduce a bill to Congress stating that all menstrual blood be considered evidence of preemptive murder of a fetus. Only lactating women would be immune from prosecution under the new law.

In addition, feminine “filth” products (ie, maxi pads and tampons, but especially tampons because nothing should enter a woman except any man who wants to) would be removed from the stores, and anyone caught selling or distributing them would be arrested as an accomplice to the preemptive murder of a fetus.

Also, women would be required under law to register their uteruses with the government, and a distribution program would be established to ensure that no uterus goes without a fetus when a willing and able man is available to fulfill his patriotic and religious duty of impregnation.

Any “rape” that results in impregnation would be considered a citizen’s arrest of a woman who was shirking her childbearing responsibilities, and would be rewarded with the Purple Medal of Sperm.

Amen Kristine. The Bible says “Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to
uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put apart for her uncleanness (Aunt Flow visiting).” (Leviticus 18:19 KJV)

“Every bed whereon she lieth all the days of her issue shall be unto her as the bed of her separation: and whatsoever she sitteth upon shall be unclean, as the uncleanness of her separation.” (Leviticus 15:26 KJV)

When Aunt Flow visits I just stay in the pool house until the Biblical time has passed. I will not submit my husband to my time of uncleanliness. During this week I don’t take any chances when it comes to my family. They can call me on my cell phone and I leave them casseroles in the freezer but I do not have phyiscal contact with any of them. I have my body trained so that by Saturday my visitor leaves and come Sunday I cam clean and can return to my family and church. PTL! 

One more thing I'm sick of. This thing where menstruation, and the female cycle is considered unclean. More dehumanizing of women. The menstrual cycle is completely natural, and a good indicator of how healthy a woman is (if she's regular then all is good in uterus-land). A woman is not unclean because her body is doing what it's made to do every month. When I'm on the rag I'm going to use whatever products I want so I can keep living my life. I can't miss five days of school or work every month because I'm preemptively murdering a fetus. No one can tell anyways, unless you don't shower or something. "Nothing should enter a woman except any man who wants to."?!?! What about what I want? Isn't that important? Are you saying, because I was born with the wrong parts, I have no rights? Grrrr.


It isn't my patriotic duty to constantly be pregnant all the time. Read the Constitution and Declaration of Independence, woman. Also if this law ever manages to happen I will find a way to be lactating all the time. This is my body, and I'm going to do with it as I please. That is my right, and I don't care what that bible says. This is why I hate religion. (sidenote: Brownshirts for Brownback and Linus made me giggle quite a bit in the comments. I'd be their friends.)


My main problem with this site (other than the fact that if I joined this discussion my credibility would be severely undermined because I'm not Christian) is the incredibly sexist view of women who have been the victim of rape. They are victims, not murderers and harlots because they don't want to keep a fetus that will be a constant reminder of a night that, among other things, can lead to all sorts of emotional trauma. Here's the thing. Say I get raped, by a black man because I was up for anything, right? There's no way I enjoyed that. I was probably threatened with a weapon, and my comfort wasn't a consideration in this event. I'm six times more likely to develop PSTD, and I'm four times more likely to contemplate suicide. Having a child whose father is the man who caused all this is going to just screw me up more. The kid will even look like him! And that hypothetical child wouldn't have a very nice home life because of that. If I'm really against abortion, I'd adopt it away then. I wouldn't be emotionally capable of rearing it.


The act of rape or sexual assault is not about sexual attraction, or lust. It is an act of power and domination. If I could pound this into everyone's head with a rusty spike I would. Really. Anyone who tells me to my face that any rape committed is the woman's fault, I will slap as hard as I can. If a woman is dressed attractively it doesn't mean she wants to have sex. The only time she wants to have sex is when she says so.

I mean rape is just such an unfair term to use against men. Women always use it as a crutch to be forgiven for their seductive ways, ummmm think Eve slutting all over poor Adam. Instead they should ask for forgiveness, and apologise to the man for enticing them and go to jail themselves. Men in general are not interested in nudity, or sins of the flesh, they simply want to father children, yet women want the sins of the flesh, they are insaitiable sex machines, constantly trying to tempt men away from the lord for their own burning desires.

First off, rape goes both ways. Men have been raped by women. It's not a crutch, it's saying "A crime has been committed against me and I want justice." And like hell men only want to father children. Why does porn exist, hmmm? People enjoy sex, not just because they want kids. Woman are not all sex machines, just like not all men are. It's a spectrum, as far as libido goes. Stop blaming the victim. *keyboard flail* Words cannot begin to describe how awful I think that line of thinking is.


I'm so mad, I think I became a feminist.


(Yes, I know this is from a while ago. I'm not really talking about the political part of this, just the fact that people think that rape is the woman's fault etc.)


Here's a palette cleanser. You can't walk around all day being mad.

Valentine's Day

Some people hate this holiday, and that bothers me. Not because I'm a huge proponent of "finding the one you love" and dating and all that, or think that your life is meaningless without a significant other. Being single is just as fulfilling as being in a relationship. (Actually, according to a professional I know, being single is probably healthier for women because they have a tendency to validate themselves through their relationships and that's the opposite of what you want to do.) Yes, having a love is really awesome because you get to share the great parts of your life with them and get laid regularly and all those good things, but not everybody needs to be in a relationship to have a happy, fulfilling life. (Also, not all relationships are good for you. In fact, in a majority of mine I probably would have been better off alone, or hanging out with poisonous snakes. I'm sure everyone will go through one of those at some point or has and understands what I'm getting at.)

Back to that Valentine's day thing, I started rambling. I know the arguments against it; it's a holiday for couples only, it's a holiday commemorating someone getting beheaded, it's a giant conspiracy by the corporations to make money off of the sheeple. Ok then.

Yes, beheadings are gross and only romantic if you think Romeo & Juliet is the greatest romance ever written. (It's a tragedy, guys. I don't find anything romantic about a guy killing himself because he thinks I'm dead, after knowing me for only three days. If I ever do something that crazy, slap me. Hard.) But, the reason for the beheading could be considered somewhat romantic. C'mon, rebelling against the system for love? Young love, even. Not bad. Anyways, Easter is about how Jesus rose from the dead and we hide eggs filled with candy for kids and tell them the Easter Bunny came last night and left those. That makes even less sense, guys, and I don't hear people complaining about that as much. (I do hear complaints.) It can be a really cute holiday, and it's an excuse to receive candy. (Or give candy if you're like me and enjoy doing that.) Don't look a gift chocolate in the box.

Valentine's day isn't for couples only. Seriously. My mom always gave me chocolate and a little gift like a pair of socks with hearts on them for that day. So I guess I grew up with a more positive view of it. For me, Valentine's Day is a great day to be with someone and do romantic things, but also a day to give your friends candy and funny cards. How is that not fun? Truly, the most fun I have had on Valentine's day had nothing to do with a boyfriend. They didn't give terribly romantic gifts. (Quick note to guys; stuffed animals are cute and all, but shouldn't be your fall-back for gifts. I've received at least a dozen of them from boyfriends, and I only liked two, because of the way they were given to me. One, a guy took me to build-a-bear and we made a leopard together, and the other I got after complaining to C. that I was cold sleeping at home and he told me my Christmas present would help keep me warm. In summary; I know I don't speak for every girl, but don't give them stuffed animals. Socks with hearts on them are preferable.) Last year, I put a couple pieces of candy into a bunch of mini takeout boxes with hearts on them, put a little note that said "Happy Valentine's Day," and gave them to all the girls in my hall. It was fun and didn't involve couples at all.

I think people complain it's corny? I don't know. But, whatever. Plenty of things are corny if you think about it, but that's ok. Doesn't mean it isn't worth doing. Or celebrating, in this case. I'm not saying every guy should buy flowers and chocolate for his ladylove and take her out to a romaaaantic candlelit dinner. If that works for you, fine, do it. However, it's nice to do something with a significant other. Yes, it will take a lot more than just giving me flowers on February 14th to make me feel truly loved, but it really is a nice thought. (And, screw it, I want to be treated like a girly girl for a day. I can't think of a reason to wear skirts that often in winter, and I'll take any excuse to dress up.)

I hear so many people saying "Every day should Valentine's Day." Yes, this shouldn't be the only day you show someone affection. That's a horrible way to go about relationships. But hey, doing the romantic thing can be hard for some people (believe me, I know), so it's nice to have a little instruction. And, yes, I like the idea of a day filled with red and hearts and flowers and chocolate. So sue me. The kind of "romance" Valentine's Day inspires is impractical to pursue every day anyways. If someone gave me chocolate, roses, and a card every day I'd get very, very sick of it.

So many people call this "Worldwide Shopping Day" with giant snorts of disgust. You're silly. Yes, the heart-shaped boxes of candy are really expensive and all the good cards cost $3.75. MAKE YOUR OWN CARD, DUH. It's a lot cheaper, and way more thoughtful. There are even free printouts on the internet. So you have no excuse if you're bad at making cards. Hell, write a love letter. Doubleplus romance points. I suck at cards, like, really bad. I manage somehow. Get regular chocolate, and origami a box together. Handmade stuff like that is adorable. Or if you suck at origami, Joann's and Michael's sells little wooden and cardboard boxes you can decorate. Even if you're awful at art you can just draw a heart and write "I love you" on it. Or "I loke you" if you're not quite at the L-word stage yet. Hand-made things are adorable.

I get the impression (feeling?) that people who condemn Valentine's Day are just uncomfortable celebrating it. I know people who view themselves as hopelessly single (well with that attitude you kinda are...) and plan on wallowing in self-pity that day. That's your choice, sure, and I'll admit I do enjoy watching a sappy movie and eating junk food every once in a while, but that seems so... unhealthy to me. Valentine's Day, to me, isn't just about Love-love. It's about the people you love, whether it's your family, friends, or the person you sit next to in that really boring class who somehow manages to make it bearable.

And, well, it's a good excuse to have sex.

Did you know?

If you have a Facebook, they somehow check out the other things you do on the internet (don't ask me how, but they do) and put ads in your sidebar based on that. They also do this based on whatever interests you put in your profile, but I assumed that. I found this out today, because Facebook has been advertising (in this order) gay-friendly colleges, engagement rings, wedding dresses, figure out what your baby will look like with this person photo sites, Jersey Shore stuff, and a musical about the Book of Mormon, among the usual things I might be interested in.

This is funny, see, because Facebook is taking my Googling of Jersey Shore (which I did to research a previous post) as my interest in it. Same with the Mormon stuff. I looked that up for research for an upcoming post (scared?). I would guess the wedding/baby stuff is because I'm currently in a relationship, and the gay-friendly things because in my "interested in" section I checked both genders. Whoever thought of this targeted advertising thing didn't think of people like me, who will Google anything under the sun. So far this week I've looked up Doc Martens, Malcolm Reynolds, boots, Simon Tam, hackysack, Book of Mormon, Kama Sutra, James May (that was C., actually), Mary Sue and "hasing kek." So have fun figuring out what kinds of things to advertise to me. (Another thing-I don't spend money on much, other than secondhand clothes, food, sewing stuff, and the occasional thing for a costume. So advertising to me is a futile gesture. I won't buy anything.)

I just set up a search history, I'm curious to see what I look up this week. This is also something to do while I finish up the next post I have planned. I'm collaborating with A. for this one, so it will take a little longer than usual. Also, it's supposed to snow tomorrow or something, and it's my birthday. So, I will be bouncing around because of the precipitation and contemplating how I will be different now that I'm 20. (Seriously, I can't teenage-angst anymore...)